What to Look Out for and Where to Ask for Help

Living in halls is a time of transition and excitement, and no one should have to experience abuse during this time.

There is no shame in asking for help, and there are many people ready and willing to support you through this.

If you're experiencing domestic abuse, or if you notice it is happening to someone else, it's important to know what to look out for and where to seek help.

What is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviour used by someone to control, intimidate, or harm another person. While it’s often associated with intimate relationships, it can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, sexuality, or background.

It doesn’t always have to be physical to be harmful or serious, and it can involve family, friends, partners, or even your flat mates.

It can take many forms, including:

📌 Physical abuse: Hitting, slapping, pushing, or any other form of violence.

📌  Emotional abuse: Manipulating, controlling, or isolating someone.

📌  Verbal abuse: Insulting, yelling, or threatening.

📌  Sexual abuse: Any form of unwanted sexual contact without consent.

📌  Financial abuse: Controlling someone’s money and financial independence.

What to Look Out For

Here are some signs that may indicate domestic abuse is happening, either to you or someone you may know:

📌  Changes in Behaviour: If you notice a friend or housemate becoming more anxious, or fearful, especially when certain people are around, this could be a sign of abuse.

📌  Constant Monitoring: this can be through messages, phone calls, or having their movements restricted.

📌  Frequent Injuries or Excuses: If someone is constantly making excuses for visible injuries, it could indicate physical abuse.

📌  Extreme Jealousy or Possessiveness: Abusers often display controlling behavior and demand to know where you are at all times.

📌  Isolation from Others: If someone seems isolated from their friends or family, or they’re discouraged from socializing.

📌  Low Self-Esteem: Constant criticism can cause someone to lose confidence and feel worthless.

📌  Fear or Intimidation: If someone in your life seems fearful of a partner, housemate, or family member when around them.

Where to Ask for Help in London

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, it’s important to seek help as soon as possible.

📣 1. Your Hall Support Services

Please let your site team know about anything happening in your hall immediately. Visit your hall page and find contact information for your own hall. Alternatively, send an email to Halls Life, and they will provide you with advice and support to get in touch with domestic abuse charities.

📌  Website - Halls Life/Your Hall 

📌 Email - here4u@arts.ac.uk

📣 2. National Domestic Violence Helpline

This 24/7 helpline provides free, confidential support to anyone experiencing domestic violence. They can help you create a safety plan and refer you to local support services.

📌 Website: National Domestic Violence Helpline 

📌 Phone: 0808 2000 247

📣 3. The National LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline

This helpline provides confidential support for LGBT people who are experiencing domestic abuse or violence.

📌 Website: The National LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline

📌 Phone: 0800 999 5428

📣 4. Victim Support

Victim Support offers support for anyone affected by crime, including domestic abuse. They can offer emotional support, help with practical steps, and assist with legal matters.

📌 Website: Victim Support 

📌 Phone: 0808 1689 111

📣 5. Shout Crisis Text Line 

If you're not comfortable speaking to someone on the phone, you can reach out to Shout. It's a free, confidential text messaging service available 24/7 for people in crisis, including those dealing with domestic abuse.

Text: 85258

📣 6. Police

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, don't hesitate to call the police.

Emergency number: 999

Non-emergency number: 101